Key Verses: “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction so that we will be able to comfort those who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. For just as the sufferings of Christ are ours in abundance, so also our comfort is abundant through Christ.” 2 Corinthians 1: 3-5
Her life was hard from the day she was born. Babies born into poverty seldom find their ways into the comfort most of us, and our children, have known and, quite frankly, take for granted. Her dad was seldom around. When he was, she often wished he was not. Her mother did the best she could, but they barely got by. Her only real possession was a used comforter she received as a gift one Christmas from her mother. She treasured it as if it was woven from the finest silk, though the label read “100% polyester”. She had no idea what that meant and did not care.
Eventually the young girl and her mother found themselves on the street with just the clothes on their backs…and, of course, the comforter. It was now beginning to show some wear and tear, much like the lives of this woman and her daughter. They found shelter at the local mission and other places that offered temporary housing, but never a home. God not only made little children very huggable, He also made them very resilient and trusting. No matter what happened, she felt safe as long as her mother was around, and she could wrap herself in that fraying comforter.
Street life eventually takes its toll on even the hardiest of people. Her mother began to have health issues that went too long unattended. That happens more than it needs to with people on the street. Sadly, the illness took her life leaving the girl, now approaching her teen years, alone – except of course for the comforter.
It grieves the heart of God that our affluent churches and society are too often MIA when it comes to these young “ladies” left to fend for themselves on the streets. The outcomes are almost never good, often leading to lives of drugs or prostitution and eventually incarceration. Such was the plight of our young “lady”. Perhaps the saddest thing was when she went through the booking process into the holding cell, they took away her only possession…the comforter.
Sitting alone in a cell, she wept bitterly. And,as so many people do when bad things overwhelm them, she blamed God for all that happened in her life—an abusive dad, her mother’s death, and now they took away the only thing that mattered in her life—that ragged old comforter. It was only gift she ever remembered receiving and last memory of her mother’s love. Now even that was beginning to fade.
The Comforters of this World
At times, all of us have sought comfort from the world. We often begin with other people who we hope can at least sympathize, but in the end little real comfort. Consider these words from Job, David, and Solomon.
“Then Job answered and said, “I have heard many such things; miserable comforters are you all.” Job 16: 1-2
“Reproach has broken my heart and I am so sick. And I looked for sympathy, but there was none, and for comforters, but I found none.” Psalm 69: 20
“Then I looked again at all the acts of oppression which were being done under the sun and behold I saw the tears of the oppressed and that they had no one to comfort them; and on the side of their oppressors was power, but they had no one to comfort them.” Ecclesiastes 4:1
When people feel rejected, they often take one of two bad paths. The first is substances—alcohol, drugs, anything that brings immediate or short-term relief that takes pain away or at least makes us numb to it. I have been among many hundreds of men (and women) who sought comfort there. So tragic. That is the first step in Satan’s clever schemes to entrap us then lead us into the chains of addiction—bondage God never intended for His free people.
The second untoward path is when people who feel strong rejection turn to anyone who will accept them as did the girl in the story. That often puts them in worst places, i.e., the wrong crowds or in dangerous relationships that imprison or lead them to do things they never intended. AND they never found the comfort sought.
God our Comforter
Let’s look to David again for the best verse in the Old Testament about the comfort of God. In the best-known of all Psalms, 23rd, David said this in verse 4,
“Your rod and staff, they comfort me.”
The meaning may surprise some. The rod is for authority, protection, and discipline. Knowing someone loves us enough to speak biblical truth and exercise authority – at times by setting boundaries – is a great expression of love. The rod was used for discipline to get sheep back in line and keep them there. Doubtful any of us would argue we need that at times. I found over the years, many i minister to wish they had it when they did not. God said He “disciplines those He loves as a father does his children.” (Proverbs 3: 12; Hebrews 12: 6)
The shepherd’s staff was there for guidance, safety, protection, and rescue. Again, the love of God is demonstrated in every aspect of these tools of the shepherd.
Jesus Our Comforter
it is both painful and joyful to remember this. God did not comfort Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemane or on the Cross! The Father did not take the cup of death away as Jesus prayed. Neither did He send angels to destroy evil and save Jesus from the cross. Rather He allowed Jesus to go through the most uncomfortable period of suffering and abuse the world has ever known—crucifixion.
Jesus knew no comfort, so we would be comforted in knowing He died for our sins and rose again. (Read again the key verses above.) From God’s indescribable acts of love, we draw our hope eternal and the kind of comfort the world will never know apart from Him.
The Holy Spirit – Our Comforter
Jesus did HIs best to comfort His disciples. They were getting more and more anxious about all His talk of leaving them. Would He really abandon them? Of course not. Neither does He abandon us. Here is the promise He made to His disciples that we can stand on today.
“And I will pray the Father, and He shall give you another Comforter, that He may abide with you forever; even the Spirit of truth; whom the world cannot receive, because it seeth him not, neither knoweth him: but ye know Him; for He dwelleth with you, and shall be in you. I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you.” John 14: 16 – 18 KJV
So by now many want to know what happened to the young lady in the story? When we left her, she was entering prison for drugs and prostitution – without her comforter, full of anger and bitterness.
The Rest of the Story
Strange things happen behind prison walls. God does some of His most amazing work in those confines. Don’t misunderstand. Most enter and leave without ever finding any comfort at all. Statistics bare that out. But for some who realize their desperate place in life, and that they have nowhere else to turn, the name of God is known to pop up in some circles of conversation. By God’s grace, our friend was incarcerated in a prison where the chaplain was a Christian and a local church with a prison ministry was engaged.
Because she had arrived at such a place in life, she attended a service one night with below zero expectations. Her mind simply could not escape the thoughts of all that had happened to her and her mom. Anger and bitterness can fill even the tender heart of a child and render it hard as stone as it had done in hers. But God…
The speaker passed out some old worn King James Bibles. When he returned to the podium, he asked them to a certain page. He read that passage in John 14 on the Holy Spirit. But the only word she heard was “comforter”. That got her complete, undivided attention. She had heard a little about God and Jesus as a child – who hasn’t? But she never felt His presence or saw Him in action. No one ever told her how much God loved her or showed the compassion of Jesus to her or her mom in a meaningful way. All she heard and knew were just empty words.
Now something quickened a lifeless spirit within her. She hungered for something or someone to fill that empty void in her life she filled in every way possible from drugs and evil men. Prison life had isolated her even more. But now someone said the magic word—Comforter. She wanted to hear more about this Comforter that promised love and life and offered hope she never knew.
As the weeks and months went by while she served out her term, she became alive again and soaked up all the Truth she was taught. Finally, completely broken, she fell into the arms of the only Comforter Who could wrap His arms around her and never let her go. She gave her life to Christ and found the comfort she had longed for since losing her mother…and the comforter.
One final note. When she was paroled and on the way out of the prison, they gave her a bag that contained what she was wearing when she entered. It contained some dirty old clothes and one ragged old comforter. She embraced and buried her face in it. She wept as she sniffed it hoping for a familiar smell that would remind her of her mother. But it only smelled of must and dust.
As she walked out of the prison into a world where she was really free for the first time, she thought about throwing the old comforter in the trash. After standing by the can for a few minutes, she decided to keep it as a reminder—a reminder that once she found her only comfort in this ragged old piece of fabric. Now she had lasting comfort from the One Who turned her heart of stone back into flesh replacing anger and bitterness with love and hope. Jesus Christ, her risen Savior and Lord.
You and Me as Comforters
My dear sisters and brothers, if you have found any comfort in these words the Lord shared tonight through me, use them to comfort someone else. I call your attention again to the Apostle Paul’s words in verse 4 above. The Lord did not give us His comfort simply to wrap ourselves up in it as a comforter like the one in the story. No. Like any gift from God the Holy Spirit, He intends for us to use it for ourselves for the purpose He intended, then give it away.
Our greatest moments of comfort come from the comfort we ourselves have received in Christ then sharing it with so many others who, like the girl in our story, seek comfort the world cannot give. In Christ alone, we have hope and comfort that bears us up no matter what human condition or place we find ourselves.
“but sanctify Christ as Lord in your hearts, always being ready to make a defense to everyone who asks you to give an account for the hope that is in you, yet with gentleness and reverence” (1 Peter 2: 15)
Acronyms help us remember what a word means or just a funny play on the letters in a word. For example, LOL – laugh out loud or AWOL – absent without leave. And most everyone has heard of the KISS principle – Keep It Simple Stupid.
One human need that all share is the need for hope. Once hope is gone, only bad things happen. There is not a more lonely or desperate feeling than hopelessness. Hope may be defined as to long for, expect, or trust that something we want to happen will.
What are you hoping for? Some hope for fortune and fame. They want to win the lottery or be on TV or in the movies. Others hope for a good job, so they can make money and feel fulfilled. Still others hope for health.
Christians always have hope. Perhaps I should say that Christians should always have hope. The word ‘hope’ is used more than 140 times in the Bible. Whether or not we have anything else this side of Heaven, we have hope. For us, it is eternal hope. But for some, that does not seem like enough. We want hope now!
Every time I teach, one of my goals is to always bring hope to the hearer. When you teach from the Bible as I do, finding messages of hope is not difficult. What can be difficult is teaching the hard truths of God’s Word which can be frightening to those who are lost and without hope. But hopeful if you are honestly and humbly looking for real HOPE. When we do that—read and look hard enough, we will always find His message of Hope – Jesus.
Tonight I am bringing you a message of HOPE in acronym fashion—actually three messages of HOPE.
- He Offers Pardon Everyday –
(Jesus speaking to the Pharisees) “But so that you may know that the Son of Man has authority on earth to (pardon) sins”—then He said to the paralytic, “Get up, pick up your bed and go home.” And he got up and went home. But when the crowds saw this, they were awestruck, and glorified God Matthew 9: 6
“Now all these things are from God, who reconciled us to Himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation, namely, that God was in Christ reconciling the world to Himself, not counting their trespasses against (pardoning our sins) them.” 2 Corinthians 5: 18-19
Have you sought and received the pardon from your sins only Jesus can give? If not, why not? Jesus is the only way to salvation (John 14:6) for the lost. And if you are in Christ, seeking His pardon restores our broken relationship when we fall back into sin.
- He Offers Peace Everyday
(Jesus) “Peace I leave with you; My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Do not let your heart be troubled, nor let it be afraid.” John 14:27
“(God) will keep in perfect peace all who trust in Him, all whose thoughts are fixed on Him!” Isaiah 26: 3
You may have seen the bumper sticker:
Know Jesus…Know Peace No Jesus…No peace.
Finally as Christians we know the third fruit of the Spirit Paul teaches us is PEACE. This is the kind of peace he later told us is the kind that “passes all understanding”.
- He Offers Power Everyday
“He gives strength to the weary, and to him who lacks might He increases power.” v 29 from Isaiah 40: 27 – 31
In the New Testament, Jesus promised Power to His disciples (and that includes us).
“but you will receive power when the Holy Spirit has come upon you; and you shall be My witnesses both in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and even to the remotest part of the earth.” Acts 1: 8
As Christians, our power to live in this world – full of all its temptations and troubles – comes from one Source – the Holy Spirit. Why do we keep trying to do things in our own power when we have His? For some of us, it is a control issue. We surrender part of our lives to Jesus but hold onto other areas.
We get the most power from God when give up control. Our surrender brings His power. The Apostle Paul said, “when I am weak, then I am strong.” 2 Corinthians 12:10
My dear brothers, take heart. No matter how difficult your situation—no matter how desperate your need, there is One who knows and understands where you are right now as I am teaching here tonight. He alone can bring hope to what you may believe is hopeless. My strong admonition to you tonight is to bow before Him and ask Him to restore your hope. Jesus never ever turns away a man with a humble, repentant heart.
He is our Hope today and forever. Amen.
For a number of years as my father-in-law’s health declined and his Homegoing drew closer, I felt compelled to have our families spend ‘my’ Father’s Day honoring him by traveling to his nursing home in the Memphis area to love on him because we never know when it’s going to be the last time. As Spurgeon said so well. “Our duty is our delight…”
My last act as the next senior dad in our families was to gather all of us around Dadaw, as he is known to his grands, lay hands on him, and pray. The most important part of my prayer was answered this morning. Dadaw was ushered gently Home – his spirit safely in the presence the Savior he loved so much.
We are so blessed our entire family was able to make the trip to be with him one more time this side of Heaven. My daughter was very excited to take our new grandson to meet his great grandfather. He seemed alert enough to know we were there. His quips slowed over the years, but he still had the occasional one that defined his wry sense of humor.
My dear brothers, do not take such days and times for granted. We have no promise of a next day or even our next breath. But if you are in Christ, you have the most important promise of all – eternal life spent in Heaven with Jesus and all the saints who have gone before and those who will follow us Home. It was a…
Happy Father’s Day indeed,
Another Father’s Day is upon us, and, honestly, I am not sure what else can be said on the subject. Many books have been written and sermons preached. Having grown up in the church, I have literally heard them all my life. With multiple teaching times just ahead, I had no intention of adding more to that. My journal is full of other thoughts and verses written down believing one day they will encourage and equip men in our walks with the Lord. But today my focus was turned to this timely subject—fathers and sons.
I have been a son since the day I was born and a father more than thirty years. I recently became a “grand”-father. Being a father is a great honor and privilege, yet our high office is not without trials and tribulations. The responsibilities can be intimidating—sometimes overwhelming. Most of us men do not want to let cracks in the armor of our manhood become exposed. But at some point in our lives as fathers, they are.
The Bible contains many examples of fathers and sons. My mind was taken to three that give us much to read, chew on, and digest as we consider them in the context of our own experiences as fathers and sons.
Abraham and Isaac. The faith of a father—the love and trust of a son.
The story of Abraham spans Genesis 12 – 25. Much of that covers the twenty-five years from God’s promise he would have an heir and descendants “as numerous as the stars”. Abram was 75 when he received the promise—100 when he received his son, Isaac.
While his age is a great conversation among biblical apologists, Isaac was young man when God gave his father the most incredible order in biblical history. God commanded Abraham to “take his son, his only son whom you love (and had waited on for 25 years) and sacrifice him” (Genesis 22:2) – a burnt offering at that!
In the next verse we read the most amazing act of obedience in all of Scripture apart from Jesus Himself. Abraham packed up what he needed, got Isaac, and headed for Mount Moriah to sacrifice his son. The most incredible thing that is easy to miss (because it is not there) is this—no argument from Abraham. As fathers, we would have been screaming, crying, and begging God to relent on such a ridiculous command.
It is probably safe to say no father ever loved his son more than Abraham loved Isaac. Yet in complete and swift obedience, he prepared to kill him. But do not forget about Isaac. We know he questioned his father about where the sacrifice was. Abraham simply told him God would provide (Jehovah Jireh). The love and trust of Isaac for his father is obvious in his obedience. He was old enough to have resisted being placed on a pile of wood to be the sacrifice. Abraham was old. Isaac probably could have taken away the knife. But he did not.
We know how the story turned out. God stayed the hand of Abraham, sparing the life of Isaac and immeasurable grief for his father. What did we learn?
- As fathers, we must also be men of faith, believing God, taking Him at His word, communicating (ongoing process) that to our sons in words and actions.
David and Solomon. A Portrait of Contradiction and Consistency
That is an odd way to position this part of our lesson. But the Bible clearly teaches that David was indeed both. He was an amazing young man who began writing worship songs watching sheep and continued throughout his life. He believed God completely and stepped in to kill a giant who defied Him as the ‘real’ Israeli soldiers cowered in fear. He loved His Lord God with all his heart. He is the only man in the Bible that God Himself called, “a man after My own Heart”. (1 Samuel 13:14; Acts 13:22)
But O did David have issues!!! Lust surrendered to that led to adultery and murder. That followed by the death of his child. Too many wives and too many dysfunctional sons. One who raped his sister. Another killed him for that. Later he led a rebellion against his father.
Much of what befell David were consequences of his sin. Yet we know from the most powerful Psalm of all (Psalm 51), David was broken and repentant before the Lord in all of this. When confronted by the prophet of God attending him, he was accountable for his sins.
And who grew up in all of this? Solomon. Solomon was not in line to be David’s heir, but God selected him, and David honored that despite major ramifications from the “rightful heir” son.
David wanted most of all to build God a house – temple – worthy of His magnificence and made all the plans and preparations to do so. But God halted that; instead giving that honor to Solomon. Once again, as with Abraham, we do not read that David complained. Instead he wrote a psalm of praise to God.
When David was about to go Home to be with His Lord, he called Solomon to him and spoke these words.
“So be strong, act like a man, and observe what the Lord your God requires: Walk in obedience to Him, and keep His decrees and commands, His laws and regulations, as written in the Law of Moses. Do this so that you may prosper in all you do and wherever you go…” 1 Kings 2: 2-3
What do we learn from such a relationship filled with contradiction on one hand and consistency on the other?
- As fathers, our lives mirror David’s more than we readily admit—as least in public. We all fail miserably and often. The question is what do you do when confronted with your sin? Get defensive and deny it? Or get humble and confess it, accepting responsibilities for your sins against your Creator and our Lord Jesus Christ?
- Despite his failures as a father, David’s lasting impression on Solomon was he chose the latter. And for that he is hailed by His Father God as “a man after My own heart”. As fathers, let us strive to be known, like David, as “forgiven failures” who model the same humble and contrite hearts to our sons. That is a legacy worth leaving!
The Father and the Son
God the Father and Jesus the Son. This might seem the more challenging and unusual of the three parts of this lesson. It turned out to be the easiest to write, but perhaps the most difficult for us fathers to apply. In the three examples that follow, it is not His Son that benefits. It is you and me! Consider,
– Sacrificial love. Most of the time when we think of this concept, the sacrificial love of Christ, the Son, for us comes to mind. That is supported by many scriptures. But in the best-known verse in the Bible, John 3: 16, Jesus speaks of the sacrificial love of God. He gave His Son to die as a sacrifice.
– Tough love. This concept was introduced to me through a book on parenting by James Dobson, PhD. It has since been applied to other areas of life including marriage. Reduced to a sentence,
Tough love means holding firm to (biblical) truths and convictions in relationships even when the impact on others may be painful and not seem “loving” in the cultural sense.
It was “tough love” of God that stayed His hand from bringing His Son down from that cross because it should have been you and me there. What He should have done was brought on mankind the judgement due after thousands of years of second chances and failed covenant relationships (on man’s part).
But He did not. Instead He listened as His Son cried out, “My God, My God why have you forsaken Me?” (Matthew 27: 46) That, my dear brothers, is the toughest love ever applied which brings us to the third love that is the result of the first two.
– Saving love. Every Christian knows what this means. It is the saving love of God that the Apostle Paul talked about in Romans 5: 8.
“…God demonstrates His own love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”
It is the saving love of Jesus that Paul again described in Galatians 2: 20
“…but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself up for me.”
As fathers, lovers of our children (and their mothers), let us strongly take to heart these examples.
- Sacrificial Love – when it costs me something or I do not benefit from its expression.
- Tough Love – when it hurts me and the one on the other end of this biblical love.
- Saving love – we cannot offer, but one of the greatest demonstrations of our love for others is when we point them to the only One Who can save them – Christ our Risen Savior.
Yours for Christ’s sake,
Beauty and the Beast – a promise kept. I recall when my daughter was a little girl, she came downstairs and asked me a loaded question. “Daddy, why do kids have to keep their promises, but grown-ups don’t? I knew where this was going. I asked what that might be, to which she replied, “You promised to take me to the movie, and you didn’t. We saw it that afternoon.
Most of us do not make promises we do not intend to keep. Circumstances may arise that prevent us, but the promisee is not always understanding—even if s/he is not a child. Breaking a promise you can keep insures one thing. You are a liar. That is a strong indictment, but it comes from a strong source—the Word of God. I could list more than a dozen verses in both OT and NT that speak to the subject.
What about God? What was said above about us holds even more true for God. If every promise of God is not true—
if He does keep even one of them, then He is a liar, our faith should crumble, and we are simply back depending on ourselves or others.
But, indeed, God is not a liar and all His promises are true. Biblical Christians believe the Bible is the true Word of God, i.e., it contains no errors or inaccuracies (in its original form). He is Truth (Jesus words in John 17), and we can take God at His Word. The question is “Do we?”
Three Promises of God that “stand out” so we can “stand on” them
1. Promised to be God to His People (that includes us)
Let’s begin by letting God speak for Himself regarding His promises. The first example is fascinating because the words are spoken by a profit-seeking prophet named Balaam. His story may be read in Numbers 22-25.
This so-called prophet was hired by the king of Moab to curse God’s people—instead he ended up blessing them. It may be hired to understand, but God speaks to and through whomever He chooses. BUT only to accomplish His purposes, i.e., bless or punish His people. Here is part of Balaam’s response to the pagan king.
“God is not human, that He should lie, not a human being, that He should change His mind. Does He speak and then not act? Does He promise and not fulfill?” Numbers 23:19
From Abraham to Jacob to Moses to David and throughout the Old Testament, God made and kept His promises. Joshua summed it up best (Joshua 23: 14)
“Now behold, today I am going the way of all the earth, and you know in all your hearts and in all your souls that not one word of all the good words the LORD your God spoke concerning you has failed; all have been fulfilled for you, not one of them has failed.”
2. Promised to send a Savior (Messiah) – From Genesis to Malachi, there are many prophecies about this Promised One:
- Genesis 3: 15 God’s words to Satan; 12: 1-3 God’s promise to Abraham
- Isaiah 9: 6-7 wonderful counselor, prince of peace mighty God; 53 suffering servant
- Micah 5: 2 born in Bethlehem
- Zechariah 9: 9 rode into Jerusalem on a donkey – righteous and having salvation
- Malachi 4: 2 Sun of Righteousness rises with healing in His wings
If His promise was not kept, we are all as Paul said,
“For if the dead are not raised, not even Christ has been raised; and if Christ has not been raised, your faith is worthless; you are still in your sins. Then those also who have fallen asleep in Christ have perished. If we have hoped in Christ in this life only, we are of all men most to be pitied.” 1 Corinthians 15: 16-18
3. Personal Promise to all who are in Christ
“…being content with what you have; for He Himself has said, “I WILL NEVER DESERT YOU, NOR WILL I EVER FORSAKE YOU,” so that we confidently say, “THE LORD IS MY HELPER, I WILL NOT BE AFRAID. WHAT WILL MAN DO TO ME?”” Heb. 13: 5-6
The part of verse 5 in caps is quoted from Deuteronomy 31:6 when Moses was about to die and passing the baton to Joshua. He said those words to encourage their hearts as I do now to encourage yours.
And one more. Perhaps the most important promise of all—eternal security. The Apostle Paul taught the following to the church to reassure them (us) that God keeps His promises and our salvation is secure because He does.
“For as many as are the promises of God, in Him they are yes; therefore also through Him is our Amen to the glory of God through us. Now He who establishes us with you in Christ and anointed us is God, who also sealed us and gave us the Spirit in our hearts as a pledge.” 2 Corinthians 1: 20-22
I know some of you are still not convinced. You look at your circumstances and question why you are here or why God would let the bad things happen in your life that have? The first question we have to ask ourselves is what is my part? Did my bad choices or decisions bring me to this point? That can be the hardest truth for men to face—looking first in the mirror.
Or perhaps it is someone else’s fault. “They are to blame. I am a victim.” Brothers, no matter how you arrived at this point, God promised all I have covered tonight with one condition – that you take Him at His Word that Jesus is His provision for our sins and receive Him as Savior. The Apostle Paul told us “we can do all things through Christ. But perhaps the words of Jesus bring more truth to this lesson. Jesus Himself said, “Apart from me you can do nothing.”
So let us trust the Lord our God and take Him at His Word. Let is be said of us as it was of Moses by the writer of Hebrews,
“By faith (Moses) he left Egypt, not fearing the wrath of the king (Pharaoh); for he endured, as seeing Him who is invisible (unseen).” Hebrews 11: 27
Like many, I was moved to disgust and great sadness when I watched as elected government officials celebrated passing another law adding one more state to the list that can end the lives of babies up to their birthday. This is a message that (1) points all to biblical truth about life in our Creator’s words, His ultimate intolerance of such sin, (2) calls out the Christian church for its passivity, and (3) offers healing and hope to those considering abortion or suffering from its consequences.
Hate is perhaps the most polarizing word in our culture today, especially in the political arena. The Lord gave me this brief message to help Christians understand how to process it – personally and in a world in which we will be hated by some because they first hated Jesus.
From Author and Teacher, Walter Spires, Desperate Men Ministries
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Four Answers Straight from the Mouth of God
In this menistry, I am blessed to engage with men from all walks of life—homeless, dealing with addictions/related issues, in prison, successful businessmen, and church men. One thing we have in common is, at some point in life, each of us has asked the question, “What’s next?” By that we mean, what is next in my life? Some may follow that with, “Is this all there is?”
The answer, of course, is it depends—on where you are, to some extent, where you have been, and, most importantly, to whom and where you are turning for answers. If you sought answers to quadratic equation problems, you would not look in an English Lit book. Neither would you find help balancing a chemical equation using a calculus book. There is useful information in all those books. But as stated, you would NEVER find the right answers to those questions because you are looking in the wrong place—going to the wrong source.
My task is clear—point men in the right direction and to the right Source. To get started, I want to offer great words of encouragement straight from the mouth of God.
“So shall My word be that goes forth from My mouth; It shall not return to Me void, But it shall accomplish what I please, And it shall prosper in the thing for which I sent it.” (Isaiah 55: 11)
That is what I want (and so should you)—to have God’s words accomplish in and thru me all He desires, i.e., be successful in His purpose. Lord, give me all of that!
With even a modest amount of time in the Word of God, men can find the answers to some of life’s most important and bewildering questions. Purpose? God’s will? Plan for my life? Simple stuff like that! Following are just four, of many, clear instructions straight from the mouth of God (His Word) that read, understood, and applied can lead you where He wants you to go. Notice I did not say will because that part depends on you. If you don’t ask, He won’t tell you. If you don’t follow His instructions, you will never get where you want to go He wants you to go.
#1. Enter into a “Right” relationship with Me.
The answers to What’s Next? begin here. To make that point clear as crystal, you need only read these two verses that speak to both sides of the need and take Jesus at His words.
“Apart from Me you can do nothing.” (John 15:5)
“All things are possible to him who believes. (Mark 9: 23)
First let’s ask and answer Why Jesus? Then we can examine How we get there? I could write for hours on these questions, but here is the highly condensed version.
- God is perfect and holy and demands that we are also. Matthew 5: 48; 1 Peter 1: 16
- That is a problem because, as you may have noticed, none of us are perfect. The Apostle Paul wrote in Romans 3:23, “we have all sinned and fallen short of God’s glory”. He went on to say (as God said to the Israelites in the OT), “the wages of sin is death” (6:23). How can we enter into a right relationship with God if we are guilty of sin that is punishable by death? God provided the Answer.
- God’s love and mercy poured out from His throne of grace and sent Jesus to save us from our sins. John 3: 16; Romans 5: 8
- Jesus explained His singular purpose this way, “I came to call sinners to repentance.” (Luke 5: 32)
- Jesus, the Son of God, the Lamb Who was slain is the ONLY Way – John 14: 6 That gives many people heartburn and leads to Christians being labeled as narrow-minded bigots and haters among other lies. Jesus said it would be that way, then and now.
- The Cross of Christ is the pivot point of eternity. On it lay the balance of salvation and damnation (condemnation) – Heaven and Hell.
So the question is this? Are you willing to enter into a “right” relationship with God made available only through Jesus the Christ – Messiah? If you have not yet done so, you need to deal with that first or the rest of this lesson will not matter.
God’s next instruction is very often overlooked—especially by Christian men.
#2. Get (not just seek) the HELP and HEALING you need.
This instruction is for Christian men who find themselves in a hard or bad place. Honest men admit we have all been there at some point in our personal, professional, and spiritual lives.
I call them desperate places God takes us to or allows us to go so He can get our full attention. We cannot go forward and accomplish all God has for us until we confront and address this essential instruction. Making the decision to get help is a huge first step in the process. It means you have come to a place where you know you need help and get it.
Let me encourage you further with acts of healing by Jesus on desperate men and women who had needs of every kind—like you and me. They sought Him out. So should you!
- Jesus healed physical illness. Lame men walked. Blind men received their sight.
“Jesus went through all the towns and villages, teaching in their synagogues, preaching the gospel of the kingdom, and healing every disease and sickness.” (Matthew 9: 35; 4: 23)
- Jesus healed men with mental illness—cast out demon and restored right minds.
“…a man came up to Jesus, falling on his knees and saying, “Lord, have mercy on my son, for he is a lunatic…he often falls into the fire and into the water…Jesus rebuked (the demon) and he came out of the boy, and he was cured at once.” (from Matthew 17: 14-20)
- Jesus healed spiritual illness (sin). We call it forgiveness.
“Then (Jesus) said to her (the sinful woman who fell at His feet and began kissing them and wiping them with her tears of repentance), “Your sins have been forgiven.” (Luke 7: 48)
There is no shame in admitting you have issues. We all do! There is pride in not admitting them. We are not alone! Great men of the Bible suffered physical, mental, and spiritual illness. Abraham, Moses, David, Peter, Paul, among others. God had answers for all of them. AND He does for you as well.
Getting the right help. Sometimes our healing is best facilitated by those trained in the specific area of our needs. God expects us to call on His name first. He also expects us to be wise and use resources He ordained for such purposes. Don’t be afraid to use them. Be more afraid not to! Your help and healing await so you can keep moving through God’s process.
#3. “I have a plan for your life. I’d love to share it with you.” (God’s words)
Most Christians know or at least have heard this verse,
“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for your welfare and not for calamity, to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29: 11
We must keep Scripture in context (what it meant when written and surrounding verses). Then we can find its application to us today. In this passage, the last remnant of Israel (the southern part of the nation— Judah) was about to be exiled to Babylon with the rest of their brothers. Generations of disobedience led to a point when God finally had enough of their sins and allowed His chosen people to be completely overrun by two different world powers. The last one even destroyed Solomon’s most holy and sacred temple.
But God does not forsake or give up on His people even though He disciplines them “as a good father does his children”. Through the prophet Jeremiah, God told His people their season of captivity would end, and, when it did, He had plans for them. That is the origin of this verse. God had plans for His captive children then, and He has plans for you and me now. But we have to find them. To help us do that, God gave them instructions on how to know His plans—they apply to us today.
“Then you will call upon Me and come and pray to me and I will listen to you. You will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all of your heart. And I will be found by you”, declares the Lord. (Jeremiah 29: 12-14a)
God did not make this process “rocket science” or some complex mathematical formula. But it requires work on our parts. It begins by seeking the Lord and asking Him. He promises we can find Him if we do.
The problem is most men don’t bother to ask.
We think we can figure it out ourselves, or it is not ”manly” to ask for help or direction. (Kind of like men who will not stop and ask for directions or trust the GPS even when it takes us the wrong or a longer route.)
One final word regarding God’s instructions. God’s plans for our lives are written on a scroll not a road map. They are revealed over time as we get and accomplish the first part and then move forward. You cannot “google map” God’s plan for your life or plug the destination into your GPS—and that drives most men mad! Most of us are, after all, a little (or a lot) on the control freak side of the line.
* Note: The will of God is not the same as God’s plan for your life. We will investigate and uncover the will of God another time.
#4. “Go in peace, live for My Sake (not yours), and enjoy all I have for you!
For you shall go out with joy, and be led out with peace…” (Isaiah 55: 12a)
One of my prayers is that I leave nothing on the table that God planned for me to be, have, and do while I am here until Christ returns or calls me Home. I am good with either! And the order in which they happen does not matter either!
This instruction reads like it should be the easiest of all. But the truth of the matter is when things get hard, what seemed clear becomes engulfed in fog, or the way/plan gets blown up by circumstances and people who do not have our interest at all, we tend to lose heart and get discouraged. I know I do. How do we fight these battles and get back on track?
Let’s wrap this final instruction from God with a few great verses. These words of encouragement, written nearly two thousand years ago, were also meant for us because their messages are TIMELESS.
The Key to Success? MEMORIZE THEM! If you know the names of the key players on your favorite college and professional teams and memorized many things in school from K through college, you can surely learn a few verses God had written down to remind and encourage you in such times. The Holy Spirit is then faithful to “call them to our remembrance.”
- “And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.” Romans 8: 28
- “If God is for us, who can be against us?” Romans 8: 31(b)
- “fixing our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of faith..” Hebrews 12: 2a
My dear brothers, these four instructions were given to us by our infinitely wise, unconditionally loving Father. The best news of all (apart from our salvation in Christ) is this. No matter how much we mess things up along the way, He always love us and is willing to help get us back on the right path—His path!
Your desperate brother in Christ,